When we have a look at our chaotic and jam-packed schedules, we may initially think and believe there is no room for the things that truly matter to us. The to-do lists are endless. The invitations and events come one right after another. The chores, the errands, the cooking, the obligations, the technology, the notifications, the emails, the work, the expectations, and the ‘shoulds’ never seem to end.
But what if there’s another way to live and be? What if you don’t have to be a victim to your schedule (or your life for that matter), and you can choose what you say YES to and most importantly what you say NO to? Yes, outside circumstances will pop up, as that is life, but our response to these is what matters most.
I know for me, and probably for many of you reading this, the most challenging part of saying ‘no’ is the feeling of letting someone else down. But when I’ve ignored that feeling time and time again, and kept saying ‘yes’, even though my heart was saying ‘no’, the outcome was never good. In the end, I not only let others down, but I also let myself down.
“When we struggle with this, we can remind ourself of what we are saying ‘yes’ to when we say ’no’. When we say ‘no’ we are choosing our well-being (mentally, emotionally and physically), our loved ones, our purpose, our gifts, our creativity, our priorities and values. We are choosing what we hold near and dear to our hearts.”
We will know when we aren’t saying ‘yes’ to the things we care most about by the way you feel, as your body will send you messages. You may feel perpetual stress or anxiety, exhaustion, depression, constantly getting sick, a nagging feeling that something is off, or life just feels hard, like you’re trudging through mud. It doesn’t have to be this way though. You can choose another way. Life can feel cozy, simple, rich and meaningful. Start small and build on that.
What is one thing you can say ‘no’ to today?